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I’m The Supportive Partner. And I’m Okay With That.
My career used to be #1 in my life. Frankly, I used to be #1 in my life without exception. And I actively dreaded the day that I’d invariably have to make a ton of sacrifices for and start having to at least in part answer to someone else. In essence, I saw settling down as a necessary evil that I would at some point have to take part in in order to have my 2.2 kids right on schedule.
But then I met the love of my life. And falling hard for him changed me.
Over the summer, I moved to the same city so that the two of us could start building a life together. But within a month of getting settled, I was confronted with the possibility of once again packing up and moving. This time to Columbia, Missouri for what seemed like his dream job.
While we didn’t end up making that move, I was by no means out of the woods once that decision was made. A few weeks after deciding against Missouri, he announced that he was about to leave his day job and go back out on his own full time. And at the time, we’d just imposed a strict budget in order to save for our wedding at the end of next year. Safe to say, I’ve been stressed by the near constant change and high level of uncertainty.
Had all this happened last year, that stress would’ve turned to resentment overnight. It hasn’t though, because…
